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As long as someone answers

“Every Tuesday at 3 PM, my mother calls the same wrong number.

Has for six years.

“Hello, this is Susan. Is Robert there?”

Same response every time, “No Robert here. Wrong number.”

“Oh, I’m so sorry to bother you.”

Then she hangs up. Sets a reminder for next Tuesday.

I thought it was dementia. Mom’s 71. Maybe forgetting she’d already tried this number.

“Mom, that’s not Robert’s number. You’ve called it 300 times. Why do you keep calling?”

She looked at me strangely. “I know it’s not Robert’s number.”

“Then why”

“Because someone answers.”

Turned out, the woman who answers is 83. Lives alone. Has severe social anxiety. Never leaves her apartment. No family. No friends.

“Six years ago, I called your brother’s old number by mistake,” Mom explained. “Woman answered. We talked for two minutes. When I apologized for the wrong number, she said, ‘Please call again anyway. Nobody calls me.'”

“So you just… kept calling?”

“Every Tuesday. We talk for exactly twelve minutes. About nothing. Weather. TV shows. Her cat. Then I say I have to go, and she says okay.”

“For six years?”

“For six years.”

“Does she know you’re calling on purpose?”

“Of course. I’m not subtle. But we maintain the fiction. I ‘accidentally’ call. She ‘happens’ to answer. We pretend it’s chance, not choice.”

“Why the pretend?”

“Because accepting help is hard. Accepting a wrong number is easy.”

Mom’s phone buzzed. Tuesday, 3 PM reminder.

She dialed. “Hello, this is Susan. Is Robert there?”

A pause. Then laughter. “No Robert here, Susan. But I’m here. How was your week?”

I listened to them talk. About the weather. A TV show. The cat’s vet appointment.

Twelve minutes exactly. Then, “I should let you go.”

“Okay, Susan. Same time next week?”

“Oh, I’m sure I’ll accidentally dial this number again.”

More laughter. Goodbye.

Mom hung up. Looked at me. “Her name is Dorothy. I’ve never met her. Don’t know her last name. Don’t know her address. Just her voice every Tuesday for twelve minutes.”

“What if you stop calling?”

“Then she stops having Tuesdays.”

Mom died last year. Suddenly. Heart attack.

I found Dorothy’s number in her phone. Called it.

“Hello?”

“Hi. My name is Sarah. I’m Susan’s daughter. I think… I think you were expecting her call today.”

Silence. Then crying.

“She’s gone, isn’t she?”

“Yes. I’m so sorry.”

“Can I ask you something? Did she ever tell you why she really called?”

“She said you needed someone to call.”

“That’s what she told you. But I’m calling to tell you why I answered. Because your mother’s voice on Tuesdays was the only thing that kept me alive. I had the pills ready four times. Four different Tuesdays. And every time, at 3 PM, she called. And I couldn’t do it after hearing her voice.”

I’ve been calling Dorothy every Tuesday for nine months now.

Same time. Same “wrong number” fiction.

Because my mother taught me, sometimes the most important call you make is to the wrong person.

On purpose.

Every Tuesday.

For as long as someone answers.

Credit: Grace Jenkins

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Fourth Day of Advent

DAILY PRAYER: Dear Lord, Grant us each the graces we need to perform the unique tasks You assign us. In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.

BIDEN: Just a little (cringe) flashback to what Jill did when she was the FLOTUS in charge of Christmas at the White House.

EVERYDAY HEROES: “Your body might break at times, but as long as your spirit doesn’t break, you’ll get through it, and get creative and find a way.” [25:12] – Amy Purdy lost both her lower legs when she was 19 years old. She went on to become a champion snowboarder and, in 2014, competed on Dancing with the Stars. Five years later, she suffered a massive blood clot in one leg that made it impossible for her to use a prosthetic.

“She lived for 20 years with her biological legs, another 20 years with prosthetic legs, and now she’s staring down the next two decades knowing new challenges lie ahead. ‘How do I want to live the next 20 years of my life?’ she asks. “I want to make sure that I’m fully taking care of myself and I’m thinking more of sustainability and longevity and health and wellness versus just accomplishing everything I can.’”

HOLIDAY SHOPPING: CLICK https://x.com/llandoniffirg/status/1994420487808549098 to see a giant inflatable Grinch. I am very sorry that I was not able to source this for your shopping pleasure.

HYPOCRISY: CLICK https://x.com/Kevin__McMahon/status/1995649546479960538 [2:13] to hear a reminder of a drone strike Democrats had no problem with … when Biden ordered it.

JUDICIAL ACTIVISM: [11:19] – More winning! Biden lost more than 50% of his SCOTUS cases; Trump has been winning more than 90%.

LIFE: Last year, New York Attorney General Letitia James sued 11 pro-life pregnancy centers for allegedly spreading false and misleading information in violation of state business fraud laws. The Alliance Defending Freedom represented the centers’ right to inform women about abortion pill reversal.

Yesterday, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 2nd Circuit ruled in favor of the pro-life centers, saying the First Amendment clearly protects their right to speak and their clients’ right to hear about this potentially life-saving option.

MIRACLE MINUTE: [7:40] – I was privileged to hear the testimony of an elderly lady in our parish who had kept her Lourdes miracle a secret for 13 years, lest the cancer return. It never did.

PRAYER for OUR NATION: Dear Lord, Keep our eyes on the Real Reason for the Season! In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.

SCIENCE: FDA commissioner Dr. Marty Makary says that Pfizer’s experimental mRNA influenza vaccine will not receive approval because it showed “zero benefit” in trials.

“We’re not just going to rubber stamp new products that don’t work, that fail in a clinical trial. It makes a mockery of science.”

SECRET SANTA: [3:52] – Imagine the relief!

TRANSPORTATION: The Transportation Department has removed 3,000 commercial driver license training providers from the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration’s Training Provider Registry government licensure requirements. An additional 4,500 training providers have been put on notice for possible noncompliance.

GRAMMY NOTES: [3:37] – Mama Buzz sent this video to me with the following, which I do not recall ever hearing about before! “Reminds me of the independent first grader I was on the first day… yup, an old veteran at the busses, got on the wrong bus because they had CHANGED THE ORDER from the year before! It wasn’t just me. One of the kids who also went to Bonnie’s and was a year ahead of me also got on that bus. Rather than being some of the first kids off like we normally would, we had to ride the entire bus route and then got dropped off .”

SHORTS:

CLICK https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-cWQ48YSa2k to see Norway’s bicycle elevator.

CLICK https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-cWQ48YSa2k to see how “sinking” wells are constructed.

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Bits & Bytes

DAILY PRAYER: Dear Lord, Grant us the graces we need to see our sins as You see them. In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.

BOLTON: [17:59] – Mark Levin gives his take on the raid of John Bolton’s home.

CATHOLIC: The Chicago White Sox honored Pope Leo XIV by commemorating the seat where then-Father Robert Prevost sat during the 2005 World Series.

DOGE: Last week, agencies terminated 163 wasteful contracts, saving We the Taxpayers $647 million. Included was a $35 million USAID contract to “acquire contractor support to establish and manage a flexible, quick response mechanism supporting activities that will support democracy and stability in El Salvador.

HISTORY: Dearest had to drink goat milk. But he did not have to use the actual goat. 🙂

INTELLIGENT DESIGN: Flatfish start out symmetrical like other fish, but during development, one eye migrates to the other side of the body. They lie flat on the seafloor with both eyes facing up. They could not have evolved, because the intermediate forms have no survival value. Plus, they have been found fossilized in layers with many other varieties of fish.

MIDTERMS: [8:23] – Dr. Steve Turley explains the redistricting war that could possibly give Trump a strong majority in the House for his last two years.

MINNESOTA: “Chicken Jockey”, a ten year old skater from Minnesota, went viral after her adorable performance in the Open Inflatables Final competition at the 2025 National Showcase, August 2, 2025, in Rochester, MI. She came in third.

GRAMMY NOTES: Prayers please for my daughter and her family. They lost a dear friend over the weekend and are grieving.

SHORTS:

CLICK https://www.youtube.com/shorts/x8r1tTIgsO0 for a good feelz.

CLICK https://www.youtube.com/shorts/s7R7P3VztQ0 for another one.

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Dear Mom

I got this in my email today. “Army Princess” gave me permission to share it, so long as I removed the names. I hope it gives you a fraction of the joy it gave me! ❤

Dear Mom,

Hello! I have a question/favor to ask. I’m working on a case study/proposal for one of my classes to show how an existing non-profit operating in Kosovo could add a Life Center to their portfolio – why they should, how it could happen.

For my final I’m working on a presentation. I’m thinking about opening the presentation by humanizing the issue. Kosovo doesn’t have any life centers in the country and the number one client for abortion tend to be young mothers who already have 1-2 children, and are struggling financially. Kosovo has the highest rate of unemployment in Europe and the lowest GDP. Culturally pregnancy issues are not spoken of. Only healthy pregnancies that happen within a marriage are acceptable to discuss. There are approximately 10 Life centers in all of the Balkans providing counseling to women in scary pregnancy situations.

This encompasses unplanned pregnancies, post-abortion trauma, miscarriages, and infertility grief. It seems these centers are one of the only places women in the Balkans know they can really go and talk to someone about their fear. Unless they seek out an abortion facility – also quiet and not discussed. My current thought to open and close with – is to show how important it is to have someone to talk to about your fears, and someone to help you through the hard times and know that there is someone there who will listen, take your concerns seriously and help you find solutions.

Doing the research made me think of you and Daddy when you found out you were pregnant with [our baby sister]. If you’re comfortable with it, I was thinking about showing a family photo of the four of us before she was born and introducing the family and stating two small children, financial concerns and then added to that – the health concern. Highlighting how important it was that you had people to support you, to pray for you, and to help you through. And then show a photo of her in her Marine uniform and mother of four. That the support you received when you were pregnant, didn’t just result in a baby. It resulted in a life that impacted many, a life that supported the future of the country and a life that continues to add goodness and hope into the world.

That’s my idea. But I realize it is really personal and while it is anonymous – I wouldn’t want to do that without your permission. If you’re okay with it, could you send me some photos from that year? Love you! And thank you for raising us with such great awareness on Life.

“Army Princess”

PHOTOS:

  1. May 1985 – Army Princess, me, Dearest when he (finally) finished his B.Arch. degree. I am extremely hypersensitive to progesterone, which is 8x higher during pregnancy; I am also Rh-sensitized, so my first two were Rh babies. We were not supposed to have another child, but God had other ideas. When we found out I was pregnant, Dearest had just embarked on his third try at finishing his degree; he was working full time and his very generous boss had not only granted him time to go to classes, but had paid half the tuition! For months of the pregnancy, I was in a tremendous amount of pain and wasn’t able to walk further than the bathroom. Our two little ones (born November 1981 and October 1983) were in full time day care until Daddy got home from work, then he had to do all the household and child care everything while trying to finish his degree.
  2. June 1985 – #3 hit the danger zone for Rh disease at around 22 or 24 weeks, so I had to have 7 amnios. The irritation in my uterus caused premature labor; the drug I had to take made me sicker. We had to take C-section classes, because they were certain I’d never be able to deliver naturally, but I’m also allergic to narcotics, so post-operative pain was a big concern.
  3. August 1985 – God be praised and chalk it up to a whole lot of help from relatives, friends, and loving strangers … our bills got paid, Daddy got his degree, Mommy survived, and baby thrived. She went full term, was born without surgery, and was healthier afterward than her previous sibling had been … which just does not happen with Rh disease! Our doctor said, “You can call it a ‘miracle’ if you want to. I sure can’t explain it.”
  4. September 1985 – (l to r) Army Princess, Mama Buzz, and Dearest at the picnic we had after #3’s Baptism.

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